One of the most helpful things that you can do is to *stay the course.* You won’t see the progress that you want to see every week, but that is ok and truly normal- the human body just doesn’t work in the consistent, linear way in which we would prefer it to. If you don’t lose weight one week, you do not need to cut out sugar. You do not need to cut carbs. You do not need to stop eating fruit. You do not need to start intermittent fasting. You do not need to do any crazy, drastic things. You need to remember that you are doing the right things if you are being consistent and honest with your nutrition and your training, and you need to keep doing those things. This is why I also encourage the use of measurements and photos in addition to the scale.
How many times have you or someone you know had a great week with lots of hard work put in only to get on the scale, not see a change, and get so frustrated that you or he/she go to the kitchen and eat your/his/her frustration? Giving up like this is not uncommon- and then when that splurge throws off the next week due to the excess calories, progress may not be seen again- and then giving up *entirely* is not uncommon. 😖
Don’t let this be you. Be patient with yourself and with the whole process. Stay positive and stay motivated. You can do this!
If you do want more help, as a PT and health coach, I offer free consultations to help you get started but also ongoing coaching- I am here for you!
PS – My number one trick for dropping a dress size in just 9 days – without surgery, stress or doing anything crazy!
I walked away from a life of luxury. The travel, the jewellery, the lavish restaurants, the fancy cars, the gifts and the expensive wine.
At the same time I walked away from a narcissist who abused and manipulated me emotionally and mentally. I escaped from a life where I was scared to death most of the time and where I felt unworthy all of the time.
I also walked away from a woman I couldn’t identify with anymore. A woman who had lost her spark, her passion, her zest for life, her shine and her happiness. That woman was me.
It took years of inner work to find her again. She was there, meekly hiding away with her face buried in her hands – flinching at every touch, feeling raw and exposed at every question “what is wrong with you?”. She needed to heal, to be alone, to find another way to channel her anger, her grief and her determination to once again be who she was.
She found fitness and health. The grind, the commitment and the discipline was exactly what I needed to work through my pain and prove to myself (and to him) that I could be better.
It gave me back control and structure in a life that had become out of control and structured only to suit him.
It gave me back my self esteem and a feeling of mastery that I could be ‘good’ at something, when I had only ever felt I was bad at everything and that I was never enough.
Walking away from people or situations that don’t serve you can be the best thing you’ll ever do. Life is too short to be unhappy, unfulfilled and controlled.
Let walking away open the door for new possibilities and opportunities, and for only good things to come into your life.
1. Get out of your comfort zone. If you want to get great at something, realise you are going to suck when you start. Repetition leads to success.
2. Challenge your assumptions so that you can discover your truths. You will find that you say no to many, many things in life to find the things that you will say yes to, to change your circumstance.
3. Make the little decisions with your head. Make the big decisions with your heart. It will never lead you wrong. If it doesn’t feel right, don’t do it.
I believed this is what 40 looks like.
I believed my best years were behind me.
I believed I couldn’t do it.
I believed everything everybody said about “oh as soon as you reach 40 you start putting on all this middle aged spread”
Until one day – the day I found fitness – I didn’t believe it anymore. I didn’t believe this as having to be my life and my norm.
The interesting thing for me was the mindset reframe of what’s actually possible. And so I threw off the chains of unworthiness, of being unloveable, of hiding – and set about becoming alive.
You don’t have to do what everybody else does or look how everybody else looks if thats not how you actually are.
Don’t play small. Know your worth. Remember who you are. Be seen and stand out.
My passion is coaching my clients to create lasting, real change that allows you to keep moving forwards – not only with your health, but with your mindset.
Reach out to me anytime for a chat about how I can help you live your best life.
“I know what I should do, I just can’t motivate myself to do it.”
When you read an article about exercise and fitness and diet, if you say “man I really should do that,” you’ve already lost.
“Should” is a defeatist word and you’re not going to get in shape by saying ‘should’!!
We ALL know that eating better and exercising improves our life in about a MILLION ways 🙌
We know we should be eating more whole foods, less junk food, cut down the alcohol, move more etc etc
In the words of Yoda – “Do or do not. There is no try.” – and there is NO “should” either!
STOP SEARCHING FOR MOTIVATION, AND PRACTICE DISCIPLINE. START BUILDING SYSTEMS AND STRUCTURE
• There’s one thing I know for sure – motivation is not going to come knocking on your door, nor is it going to be present all the time! This is why discipline is so important – doing what needs to be done even if you don’t feel like it. 👍
• Another thing I know for sure is it’s not just a lack of willpower – it’s a lack of proper preparation and systems!
By automating our thinking for those first few weeks, we can remove emotion from the equation until we start to see positive change and build momentum. 💕
It doesn’t happen overnight but is the result of consistent, focused actions day in, day out.
Week in, week out. Staying the course even when life gets in the way and more importantly, making your goals bigger than your BS.
Nothing worth having ever came easy. You don’t get the results you don’t work for. There are NO quick fixes – but there are more enjoyable ways to get there than starving yourself, restricting yourself and killing yourself in the gym.
I can show you a better way.
Have you joined my No Limits Lifestyle free community? A group of like minded, fitness focused individuals coming together for support, motivation, fun and love.
Sometimes we need to just sit and reflect on how far we have come – in body, in mind, in spirit.
And how did I get here? Through failures, false starts, tears, stubbornness, determination and sheer dogged tenacity.
Realising I’m a fighter.
Feeling the fear and doing it anyway.
That old timid version of yourself is a distant memory like an old childhood friend – she still makes you smile but you’ve outgrown her.
It makes room for growth, for expansion and Version 2.0 of you.
Cherish her, encourage her, love her and listen to her. She is destined for great things.